Most of your relationships are going to be healthy and fun ones. A healthy relationship is an equal one. An unhealthy relationship is not an equal one.
Here are some signs of an unhealthy relationship - it could be a lover, friend or parent:
The person you are with may be:
Jealous and possessive. They may accuse you of cheating or flirting without any reason, and are always suspicious of where you have been or who you’ve been with.
Controlling. The person demands your time and attention, controls the finances and becomes angry if you show signs of independence.
Always winning. The person believes he or she is always right, and justifies his or her actions by blaming you or other people.
Manipulative. You're told you're crazy or stupid when you express yourself on certain points, and you are made to believe that things are your fault. They also play ‘the silent game’, ignore you or lock you out as punishment when they don’t get their own way.
Moody. The person’s moods swing from aggressive and abusive to apologetic and loving after the abuse has occurred.
Contradictory. The person may break promises, or say they love you and then turn on you.
If your relationship does not make you feel safe, comfortable and good about yourself, it could be time to leave. Being safe and happy starts with you.
Need help for violence or abuse? Or do you know a teen in trouble? Call the 116 helpline under Lifeline Zambia.
Think your relationship could be abusive? Find out below.