My girlfriend wants me to have sex with her before marriage … but I don’t. She kept hinting at first when we started dating. But now it's getting really hard to stop her.
Recently I told her to come visit me at my house. When she came, she was dressed like a prostitute. I wanted to tell her how she looked but I held my tongue. She stayed until midnight. I asked if I should walk her home. But she said no, it's too late now. She asked if she could rather sleep over. I cooked dinner and we watched TV and kissed on the couch a bit. Things got heated and we came close to having sex.
I jumped up and said, “Let me make up a bed for you on the couch.” But she kept making advances on me. We ended up naked on my bed. I knew I didn’t want to do this, and I knew I didn’t have protection, but it was getting hot. Then my phone rang. It was an old friend but it was the excuse I needed to jump up and break the heat.
Shortly after that we went to sleep. In the morning, I drove her home. I am not sure how to tackle this and tell her that I don’t want to sleep with her.
Telling the person directly is most often the best way to handle it. You can say, "I really like you but I am not ready to have sex” or “It's against my beliefs” or “I made a promise to myself to wait." Make your choice clear and not negotiable. Girls are not mind readers, rather be direct and honest and you will avoid having to make excuses.
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