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Positive at 13

"If only I'd known I could get help to prevent it..."

‘I wonder why a grown man would want to force himself on a young girl. I was 13 when my uncle raped me and threatened me to keep silent about it.

It was a Friday afternoon, a half day at school. When I got home, I was greeted by my angry uncle, who scolded me because of the dirty dishes in the sink. The lady who usually helped us with the chores was not there.

I changed into a chitenge (wrapper) and started washing the dishes. My uncle came into the kitchen and commented on how much I had grown.

He asked me to bring a glass of water to his room. When I got to his room, he asked me to sit on the bed. I prepared myself for another lecture. That is when he raped me.

Afterwards, he threatened that if I told anyone, I would be chased into the streets with no home and no one to sponsor my education.

It was painful. I did not report him. I regret this now.

If only I had known where to go, maybe I would not be HIV positive because I could have gotten some PEP (Post Exposure Prophylaxis) services to reduce my chances of getting HIV.

I only learned years later that after a rape, you should not bath before going to the police so that you don’t erase the evidence. Instead my uncle got away with raping me and I am left with HIV.

This is a true story of sexual abuse told by a brave young woman. If you have been raped and want access to PEP drugs that can reduce your chances of getting HIV, it must be taken within 72 hours after the rape. This story was provided courtesy of Generation Alive, an organisation working towards the advancement of women’s rights. Have you been raped or sexually abused? Find out more below.


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that was bad don't worry dear friend GOD is always there for u, you can be healed through Jesus's heallin powers i have alot of people testifying the power of GOD and how they got healed and may GOD forgive your uncle for what he did dear.

2 years, 8 months Ago Report

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It is so sad, i on the other hand was raped by my bestfriend and infected with HIV. I also didn't know about PEP. This happened to me at the age of 17. You are not alone.

2 years, 12 months Ago Report

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