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CityPrincess: You’re dating other people

Should they know?

Is there anything wrong with dating lots of people at the same time? I used to think so, but now I'm not so sure. I mean, keeping your options open means that if the person you’re into isn’t worth it, you can move onto the next one.

I think getting to know lots of people is a good thing. It can keep you from getting too serious about just one - at least until that special someone really stands out from the rest.

But the question is: should you be open about the fact that you're dating more than one guy or girl at the same time?

Well, if you’re just hanging out then there’s nothing wrong with that. But if things get serious, that’s different. If you're even thinking about changing your relationship status on Facebook because of one of them, then you definitely need to be clear that you’re also seeing other people.

So what if you're having sex with more than one person?

Well then, heck, yes! They do need to know about that! They are signing up for a messy situation by sleeping with you if you’re sleeping with all of them! Then there’s the increased risk of sexually transmitted infections if you're not committed to just one sexual partner. So using protection shouldn’t be up for discussion it should be The Big Rule. After all, how would you feel if you were just one of the girls a guy was sleeping with, or just one of the guys a girl was sleeping with?

I think it’s important to figure out who you’re into before taking them to bed. We’re all allowed a little experimentation - just as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone. Right?

Sleeping with more than one partner at the same time is riskier than having one partner at a time. Unprotected sex means you are exposing yourself to anything that all of your partner’s current and previous sexual partners may have had. That’s not a nice thought, is it? The old advice is still the best advice. Date around to find the right partner, don’t sleep around to do it. When you’ve found this person, be true.

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